I started this blog in a the midst of a journey through self discovery. A journey I had never in my life had the chance to pursue until after my mid 20s.
One of the major factors that impacted the start of this journey was that my life had literally always been lived for someone else. It was a life of selflessness and repetitive self-denying sacrifice. I was not a Mom at that time, but still, it was family I was caring for and I didn’t think twice about the things I did for them.
But the one day…
Now that I was alone, and I had no idea what I was doing, who I was or how I was meant to be as a person. I did know, however, that I wasn’t genuinely happy nor fulfilled. I was lost, highly confused about my own life and yes I admit it…pretty resentful.
Clearly there had to have been more to life. There had to have been more than investing every last ounce of my effort into everyone but myself. If upon looking at myself one day made me wonder ‘what have I been doing and what am I going to do now?’ then I obviously missed something along the way.
Now that I am a Mom, I am free of the misconception that it’s all about everyone else to a magnitude that I exclude my own person. I have learned that that is not ok.
It’s not ok nor good for me, so it’s not good for my family.
Our vocation as homemakers constitutes devoting our all to our family, yes, absolutely! But that does NOT constitute surrendering to an extent of straight up renouncing your own person.
God never said ‘love others more than yourself or love everyone except yourself’. He said: “Love your neighbor as yourself”.
The following examples picked straight from the Bible elaborate what God himself thinks about ways he expects you to fill your cup! That way your family may continue to acquire your support as a major fountain of relief and of life that you are in the home.
Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20
Beloved, I pray that all may go well with you and that you may be in good health, as it goes well with your soul. 3 John 1:2
So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God. 1 Corinthians 10: 31
For while bodily training is of some value, godliness is of value in every way, as it holds promise for the present life and also for the life to come. 1 Timothy 4: 8
And he said to them, “Come away by yourselves to a desolate place and rest a while.” For many were coming and going, and they had no leisure even to eat. Mark 6: 31
Come unto me, all who are weary and I will give you rest. Mathew 11: 28
“The eye is the lamp of the body. So, if your eye is healthy, your whole body will be full of light, but if your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light in you is darkness, how great is the darkness! Mathew 6: 22-23
If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him. James 1: 5
No longer drink only water, but use a little wine for the sake of your stomach and your frequent ailments 1 Timothy 5: 23
Cast all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you. 1 Peter 5:7
My ultimate and very important message is one I learned after years of accepting my reality. No matter how necessary and nice it is to do things for ourselves, I came to realize and acknowledge how amazing it is to think how much good I have been to others, and to see how much my life has been invested in being that worthwhile to this world.
Isn’t that amazing??
Picture the following (and likely relatable) scenes:
–You sit down to chill, and your babies start climbing on you.
–You go to bed and lay on your tummy to relax, and guess who walks in, thinking he’s gettin’ something?
–You stand in front of mirror to do your hair or makeup and the whole family follows you and just wants to watch you.
(If my sister were reading this, she would stop me right there and say: “Not everything’s all about you, Nena!”)
Those examples above elaborate the fact that we are a fountain of life to our family! We are the support that holds it all together!
How awesome is it to realize how needed, wanted and VALUABLE we are to people we love?!
Mama, a flow of life literally streams out of you! And most especially when approached by your husband and children, so make sure you never run out. Keep nurturing your individual needs and continue being that support, because if you fall apart, your whole household falls with you.
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